The Gardener and the Carpenter
  • Author : Alison Gopnik
  • Release Date : 09 August 2016
  • Publisher : Farrar, Straus and Giroux
  • Genre : Family & Relationships
  • Pages : 320
  • ISBN 13 : 9781429944335

Download or read book entitled The Gardener and the Carpenter written by Alison Gopnik and published by Farrar, Straus and Giroux online. This book was released on 09 August 2016 with total pages 320. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One of the world's leading child psychologists shatters the myth of "good parenting" Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call "parenting" is a surprisingly new invention. In the past thirty years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult. In The Gardener and the Carpenter, the pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar twenty-first-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong--it's not just based on bad science, it's bad for kids and parents, too. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative, and to be very different both from their parents and from each other. The variability and flexibility of childhood lets them innovate, create, and survive in an unpredictable world. “Parenting" won't make children learn—but caring parents let children learn by creating a secure, loving environment.